As I write this I have little Rori Ana locked in the backyard. Some of you may think that is so mean and horrible of me, and in most cases I would agree. If I heard of someone locking their child in the backyard I would probably shake my head and think of so many other ways to handle the situation. That is usually what you do when your on the outside looking in... But in this case I am the one stuck inside and I am at the end of my wits with Rori Ana. Everyday she does something... EVERY. SINGLE. DAY!!! To me, when she rubs mustard into my tile its a treat compared to some of the other things she has done. I think 'oh good, I can just wipe this mess up' or 'at least this one wont stain, right?', things like that. Little easy messes are a pleasure, matter of fact I have found that I don't even say anything when they happen. I just clean it up, almost with happiness and a smile because I know that this isn't as bad as it could have been or because I compare it to what she has done before (I let Rori back in by the way, she is here. Safe and alive.) I also realize that most of you will probably be thinking 'where is this child's mother when she is doing all this??' Well... usually I am cleaning up the last mess she made, I would say 75% of the time I am busy fixing whatever she just did. The other 25% of the time I am cleaning up after my other 3 children. And on top of that I have things that I have to tend to like the house, school, homework, practices, lessons etc. etc. etc. And as much as I wish, and believe me I DO because it would save me a lot of headache and heartache, as much as I wish I could be right by Rori Ana's side at all times I just cant. Its impossible. I try, I try as hard as I can to constantly involve her in whatever I am doing. Try to keep her occupied and keep her mind off naughty things and keep her distracted. But she is a quick one, definitely the neediest and fastest of all my children. She is smart, she knows what she is doing is wrong and its apparent when I walk in the room and she screams and darts in the opposite direction and gives me this face like 'BUSTED' and giggles as she runs away to find another mess to create.
Some people might have different ideas on how I should punish her, and PLEASE FEEL FREE TO TELL ME!! Like I said, I am at the end of my rope. I feel that I have tried and done everything but I am always willing and open to new ideas. Rori Ana spends a lot of time in time out, in her room or in the backyard sitting on her chair. I find that if I can find her a quiet spot to relax and think about what she has just done it seems to calm her down for a bit. Or maybe that's just me, maybe I'm the one who is searching for the quiet time out so I can relax and calm down. Either way, that is the route I have been going on. And then trying to explain to her what she did was wrong. I don't think she is listening though, pretty sure she is looking over my shoulder at whatever else she has in mind to destroy. This child of mine is pure evil! She searches out and destroys whatever she wants! And if you put it away or out of reach, it just makes it that much more fun for her to find and get to. I put her in time out because if I don't she might not make it another day. Sooooo... I have decided to start documenting everything she does through out the week. Who knows, maybe someone will read this and have a brilliant idea that I could try and that I haven't thought of because my brain is fried?! Or maybe one day I will be reading this and a light bulb will go off. Or maybe this is just for memories sake and I will let Rori Ana read this one day so that she might understand why her children are hellions. Or when the cops show up on my doorstep wondering why my baby is outside covered in her own feces and I'm squirting her with the hose I will be able to use this as evidence so they can see that it wasn't me that did this! It was her!! I am going to start today and then post at the end of the week, I will try to do this every week. I wont mention how last week she hid my favorite necklace, shaved her own head with Rory's clippers, sprayed my leather couches with sunblock and dumped hand sanitizer all over my kitchen. I will start fresh today... here we go...
8/10/10 This morning Ava woke up trying to go potty, she has been pretty constipated and having a hard time going because she tenses up. So I decided to put her in the bath to try to calm her down and relax her so she might have an easier time. Well, Rori saw me do this. A little later on I put Rori Ana in the bath, guess what she did?! Yep, she pooped! And then stuffed it down the drain so now it is clogged... WITH POOP. Daddy Rory will have to deal with that later :) So, I took her out of the bath and cleaned what I could and put her in the shower in the meantime. She somehow figured out a way to use our shower squeegee to knock down the hair conditioner. I have no more conditioner now. I took her out of the shower got her dressed and started on lunch, while I was making lunch she got a hold of a snack pack pudding and went up to her room so she could make her mess in peace. I had no idea of course. I went up there about 5 min. later to find that she was sitting on her WHITE lamb skin rug with her dark chocolate pudding!! I told her to wash her hands and as long as it took me to put the rug in the washer she had dumped out the hand soap and smeared it into the bathroom mirror. Later that day she dumped out the nesquik on my carpet while I was helping Jameson do his homework. I'm going to get my hair done now... She is daddy's responsibility.
8/11
Today has been a pretty good day, nothing major. I kept her busy for most of the day by filling up her swimming pool. However she did find the time to dump all her noodles onto her napkin, for some unknown reason, color all over her walls in her bedroom (but the marker was washable so it came right off). Then she dumped all the Q tips in the toilet but I made HER fish them out. Other than that she was a good girl today! Yay!! She only had to spend about 5 min. in time out, that is success to me.
8/12
Today while I was putting little Ava Lyn down for a nap Rori Ana decided to go out to my car... and poop in her pants. She also got into the cookies and hid them in her bed.
8/13
Today I leave for Moab!! Yay!! Good luck daddy :)
To be continued....
1 comment:
I am SO SORRY! I go through very mild things compared to this, but most of them have to do with Lexie coloring on a surface she shouldn't (dresser, walls, the pew at church, etc) and our wall paint is low-quality so practically NOTHING comes off. I finally gave up trying to clean it and have decided we'll just have to re-paint before we sell our house. As for a solution, the only thing that comes to mind is to plan a "Mommy-Rori" date once per week. Give her your undivided attention and see if she calms down. I've heard of parents who both go with 1 child at a time and get a sitter for the other kids. With 4 kids, that would mean each child gets a date once a month. But maybe to start off, you should do a couple for Rori in a row.
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